Restoring Your Broken Marriage
Is your marriage at that critical crossroad where divorce seems like the best option? If restoring your broken marriage is one of your options, please know that there are some things that you can do to fix your marriage problems. You can not just avoid divorce but actually get back the marriage you have been longing for.
I hope that your heart still beats for the one you love. If you feel as though you no longer are in love, don’t panic. You are actually experiencing what many others have gone through during their relationship. I know it’s hard to believe that you can fall in and out of love but it’s true. As you mature and go through different things during your relationship, it’s quite natural for your feelings to change.
The most important thing to remember is that just as you have fallen out of love you can fall back into love.
The key is to not let how you feel now dictate what you do. If you are emotionally drained then it’s hard to imagine restoring your marriage. When you are broken and hurting you lose hope. Without hope it’s extremely difficult to take the necessary steps to repair your marriage.
The first thing that you need to do is recharge your emotional tank. You do this by making a conscious decision to do the things that you know will restore your broken marriage. You can start by moving from disliking, to tolerating to liking and to loving your spouse again.
Do you remember when you were able to look beyond your spouse’s faults and mistakes? That is what you should be striving for again while you are in the process of restoring your relationship. It doesn’t mean that you should let your spouse walk all over you or abuse you in any manner. However, you should be able to stop letting things irritate, annoy and make you angry. I have yet to see anything good come out of anger.
You need to really try to make sure that you are truly devoted to fixing your marriage, even if your spouse isn’t as interested as you are. If you are committed then you won’t let little things get under your skin. You really have to have thick skin to have a successful marriage.
I suggest that for the next 21 days you start devoting yourself to restoring your marriage. Here are some things you should avoid doing;
- Starting a fight or an argument over something that is unimportant in the scheme of things.
- Shutting down or withdrawing from your spouse because of something said or not said.
- Making nasty, demeaning or sarcastic comments to your spouse. Your words have the power to tear down or build up your spouse. What you say does matter. Make the effort to be patient and guard what comes out of your mouth.
- Avoid thinking about separating or divorcing your spouse. The very thoughts you have will subconsciously lead you to act a certain way.
If restoring a broken marriage is what you desire, you simply need to avoid or stop doing those destructive things and start replacing them with helpful and re-energizing things.